I'm slightly livid because I feel like there is so many times where people can't do me favors or treat me with respect, but expect me to do things for them. I don't know that my reasons are valid, or that I am "right," but that is how I feel.
This may come off rant like, it sort of is, I just feel like people are so self absorbed. I'm completely sick and tired of people asking me what is wrong then getting mad because they don't like my reason... Example: If I were to bring up to a friend that I was mad at the way they ignored me then I get a response like "You always think people are out to get you, no one is ignoring you, and you need to quit taking things so personal." Now this exact issue has not happend... But it's what I'm forced to deal with. Why do people ask you what's wrong, or say "I want to help you, but you never tell me whats going on" then get mad at you for why you feel the way you do.
Feelings are important to people, very rarely are they ridiculous, or un-called for. Most of the time poeple do not just make up feelings in order to cause problems. If anything people keep their feelings to themselves in fear of being judged. I am one of those people who is scared to share my feelings with others because people have proved to me they either do not take me/my problems seriously, or they don't care enough to actually hear me out.
I am beyond frustrated at this moment, I'm sure people can relate. It's hard to ball up and tell someone they are hurting you, or that they are doing something you are not a fan of. Why do people shut you down when they do not agree. People do it all the time, they don't like what they hear, or feel threatened, so they retaliate in forms of either defense or just ignoring you all together.
It gets old having to keep to yourself, especially when things begin to eat at you. I know there are some things better left un-said, but then again why should I have to hold back to spare someones feelings when they don't think about me long enough to care how I feel when they treat me poorly. Many of this can go back to the list of things I wrote about in my post about "being a good friend."
Like many adults I don't take kindly to people telling me what to do. What I hate more is when I offer so much of myself to someone and they could care less about how they treat me as a person. Now something worse... people who try to tell me what to do why they wouldn't allow me to treat them the same way! Maybe I'm crazy, maybe I do take things personally, but those are my FEELINGS!
Don't make someone feel bad for the way they feel. Don't treat someone in a way you wouldn't like to be treated. (This is basic information you learn in pre-school.) Give your friends and family the benefit of the doubt and hear them out, even if you don't like what they have to say, or if it is negative towards you!
PPPS: I'm entitled to my feelings, my words, and my blog. This blog is one thing I refuse to let someone take away from me, or control.
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