What's the Rush???

Something I have noticed is the Millennial Generation’s need to be in a constant rush.  We often rush into things just to fulfill a milestone, we often don’t take time to evaluate our options or even take a hard look at what we are about to do. Sometimes we rush into good things: like college, or jobs. Other times we rush into things that could be reevaluated, or jus taken slower: relationships, marriage, and children. We sometimes take the first opportunity given, even if it isn’t the one we need long term.

I myself, not to brag, took my time in my relationship and spent three years getting to know my significant other before we got engaged, and we took another whole year to get married. As far as I am concerned this was a great amount of time to get to know one another and learn what is necessary before jumping into the commitment of marriage. Some wait longer and that’s just fine, but there are some who rush into this milestone of life and it quickly becomes something that “was,” it doesn’t continue on as their “forever.”

Facebook has this funny ability to share people’s life choices, and I have been privilege to many versions of this reality for others and their relationships. It is one thing to get engaged and realize that it was a poor choice, then back out before marriage becomes the outcome. Sometimes that engagement is the “rush” of reality to show a couple that maybe things aren’t what they are supposed to be for their relationship.

I have seen too many people on my timeline getting married and within a year/year and a half that is no longer the status. Most people I’ve seen do not overly broadcast their divorce, but it is quite evident when they once had wedding photos then later you see those pictures deleted and new significant others pictured on their timelines. I have seen this with four different “friends” on my Facebook.

I absolutely do NOT know the seriousness of their situations. There could have been abuse, or infidelity that occurred behind the computer screen. Regardless, all of the instances I’ve witnessed seemed as though the wedding happened just as quickly as the divorce. We all saw the 45-day marriage of Kim Kardasian and how that stumped our countries’ accepted media. The popular 45-day marriage is a great example of those I’ve described, it was a quick marriage that ended just as quickly as it began.

I have a hard time trying to understand how you could possibly rush into something so serious as marriage. To take the time to plan a wedding, vow your love in front of your loved ones, and then decide that was a mistake a few months later..? I’m not judging these people who have been in this situation, but I find it interesting that this mistake is so common around me.  The only common idea is that people are rushing into life; they feel this is what must happen for them to be accepted, or seen as a successful adult.

Regardless of the situations, or reasons, it’s unfortunate that we feel the need to race the clock on life's journeys and end up wasting special moments, like weddings, on something that wasn’t fit for our forever. I just hope that anyone reading this knows they shouldn’t be in a hurry to complete life, it’s not a race.