I was talking to one of my best friends the other day and we
got to talk about something that brought up a random old thought. She has been
subbing at the schools in her area and mentioned how some teachers follow suit
and will essentially bully the students who they don’t have faith in. I was
astonished by the fact a professional would act that way to kids who were in
elementary school. Then I remembered something that happened to me, which had
me question my astonishment.
A teacher never perpetually bullied me, but I did have a
teacher who managed to embarrass me and make me feel horrible about myself in
the seventh grade. It was my history teacher, and it was super weird that she
felt the need to do this.
I don’t remember the exact assignment, but we had to draw
the country of Africa over and over and label areas… I was lazy and did no take
my time tracing the picture; it wasn’t the assignment to do so. I just drew the
basic shape, free hand, to the best of my ability to complete the assignment. (I’m
not an artist). Apparently this was
comical to my teacher and she felt the need to make it an example, I never knew
what the example was except to make me feel bad.
I remember walking from math class to wait for a friend to
leave her first period history class and this kid walks out and stops me and
says “nice drawings!” I was confused by the comment.. I was quickly filled in
by my friend on our way to science. She mentioned that our teacher had shown
her entire first period class my worksheet and made a comment that the drawings
were not very good. I was upset to say the least. That same kid who made the
comment was also in our science class and continued to make comments that did
not make me feel better about the situation.
Later that day I finally reached her fourth period class and
was one of the first in the room. She comes up to me and says, “So I’m sure
you’ve heard I’ve been showing everyone your assignment?” I immediately broke
down crying. (I was, and still am, super sensitive.) I was hurt that she not
only made a joke of my homework in front of the entire class, but that she
brought it up to me like it was funny. She then told me to go ahead and go to
the bathroom and come back when I was feeling better.
I came back a few minutes after the bell and took my seat
and she started her fourth and last discussion of the day about my homework. And
after she was done she set the paper on my desk and handed me a starburst for
“being a good sport.” It felt like a giant slap in the face, and I was beyond hurt
and embarrassed by the whole ordeal. I was also 13, so that wasn’t helpful to
my self-esteem.
Looking back now if that happened to me on such a bologna
assignment I would laugh it off and make a joke of it. But at thirteen having
people make jokes about it to me during other classes before even knowing what
I was up against blew my mind. I don’t know if the teacher meant to be mean,
I’m sure she didn’t but I would think a teacher would be more sensitive to
student about such a topic… Maybe she thought I would react differently, but I
was bullied a bit back then, nothing too major just about acne, and middle
school stuff like that… regardless it was pretty rude of her, and something to
this day I remember. That says a lot
about what a teacher can do to “bully” a student… Or at least make them feel
like crap. Teachers should be people who you can trust, not someone who makes
you feel like a target of jokes.
Regardless if she had no ill intentions kids took the reigns
and made me the butt of their jokes over the situation.
That's not "bullying." More like just chiding because you obviously were too lazy to trace a map of Africa and it sounds like you hilariously failed at drawing Africa.
ReplyDeletehey Not-so-anonymous, thanks for another great comment! So I can understand how the title confused you. But if you scroll down to the second paragraph (it starts with the phrase "a teacher never perpetually bullied me...") I next make mention that she was simply embarrassing me... maybe it was my fault for not perfectly drawing a map, but she didn't have to make an example of me when my work was no one else's business. Sorry you got confused by the title. Bloggers use what we like to call "click bait" to draw you in to read! Glad it was useful! Let me know if you need any more clarification. Thanks Again! :)
ReplyDeleteJust because I'm clearly the same person commenting on your posts doesn't mean I'm not still anonymous - just to clarify!
DeleteThank you for the insight about bloggers and clickbait though! And you're welcome for all the comments. Just trying to throw some sass back your way hon : )