"Sooooo..... WHAT ARE WE??"

I’m sitting here watching Hulu, trying the new series of Real World “Skeletons.” I’m only two episodes in and it’s pretty dramatic. I’m not a super fan of this show, it’s clear people turn into raging idiots when they drink too much. Regardless, part of this show prompted this post about the “NEEDY GIRL!”

My college roommate and I call these girls the “'what are we???’ Girls.” Basically these are girls who the second they start talking to a guy, just barely past flirting, strike up the whole “So what are we” BS. They aren’t even talking to the guy for more than a week and expect some type of exclusive relationship.

I understand how it can get difficult spending every day with someone and not putting a title on your relationship. These girls are the types who will text you for a week, have occasional hook ups, and then ask the annoying question… “SO WHAT ARE WE.”  I use to be “friends” with a girl like this, and it was beyond stressful. If a guy doesn’t want to commit after a week he isn’t a jerk. If you ditch ever guy who doesn’t commit right away you may miss out on finding a great relationship.

These types of females are also the kind who gets annoyed when the guy they like shows ANY attention to another female. They feel so betrayed if their “hook up” isn’t seeing them as a priority. They see themselves as the center of the world, and they  have issues not being a priority.

After being with my Fiancé for three and a half years I am beyond thankful that he and I were friends first. There wasn’t a rush of romance when we met, as a matter of fact we were friends for two years before we even started to fall for one another. When relationships start off in a lustful situation they tend to lack foundation and begin to crumble before anything can be built up.

Another note to make in any relationship: If you start a relationship by making a person leave their current partner for you, the chance is they will also leave you for someone else.  Why would you want to be a side chick/dude? What makes you think they will be faithful if they ever put your butt on the starting line up? I know it’s super cliché, but once a cheater always a cheater.