What is Love??

I’m having a hard time coming to understand how someone could lower their self worth for someone who treats him or her like an option. Lucky for me I have the most perfect man in my life; he treats me like a Princess, and always puts me first.

I view girls all the time who post about the terrible men in their lives, yet the keep returning to them. Just a few months ago an acquaintance on Facebook posted about her “Cheating” husband, she continued on about how he was worthless, abusive, and a terrible person. After a few weeks past she moved on, while still legally married, as he did exploring other options. Now she is posting pictures with him and referring to him as her “Husband” again.

I’m confused…??? Why would you say one minute about how abusive he is, and then go on months later about how you love him and act like all your previous posts never existed.

Now its obvious this girl already has issues because she posts all her most intimate details on Facebook, so returning to an allegedly “abusive” man is not out of left field for this female. All that being said it brings about a good point: Why does anyone get back with a person who treats them so terribly?

I have a hard time understanding why people continue in relationships that are poisonous. Don’t get me wrong, I look back on old relationships and say “what was I thinking,” but I can at least come to that conclusion. I feel like girls lower themselves for a “LOVE” that has no benefit except the idea that there is someone “important” in their lives. If I’ve learned anything from previous mistaken relationships, it is that I’m glad I didn’t waste any more time with them than I did.

I would hate to be with a guy for 3 years and realize he was a jerk, but continue to be with him for another 4 and look back at all the wasted time behind you. In my opinion this would lead someone to feeling like “Since I already wasted seven years on this person I may as well stick around..” To think a whole life could be wasted and when you reach your late 30s you are looking at divorce and having to start a whole new life at an older age. DON’T miss out on growing old with someone who is worth your time, don’t waste it with someone you will regret 15 years down the road!

A reminder for everyone out there:

-       There ARE more and BETTER fish in the SEA!

-       Good people do exist

-       You do not deserve to be treated as anything less than a Princess! Or Prince…

-       You should be with someone who makes you happy, not someone you feel obligated to stay with.

-       If you don’t see a future with someone don’t waste time in the present or you’ll look back and regret your past!

I'm Engaged!!!! (And I went to Texas....)

After spending three years with my amazing boyfriend it has finally happened, he proposed! As of Friday last week I am engaged, and working on planning a wedding. It makes me so happy to finally call Matt my Fiancé and future husband.

Last week Matthew and I spent my Spring Break in Houston Texas exploring the sights and eating lots of new food! (My favorite!) After a long week of traveling around the Houston area and catching up with an old friend we took the day Friday to spend at the Houston Zoo. Matt had it all planned out, he purchased the tickets ahead of time, and even purchased some tickets to take a tour of the elephant exhibit. (If you’re new here I am OBSESSED with elephants…)

After meeting, feeding, and petting some elephants we left to take a photo in front of the exhibit. After the first photo snapped Matt turned to me, pulled out the ring and knelt down in front of me. I sprung quite the leak. I began bawling my eyes out and shaking like a leaf. He grabbed my hand and after a short speech he asked me to marry him. I couldn’t have been more excited to start this new chapter with some of earths most amazing creatures standing close by.

Our friend Danny accompanied us on this adventure and took roughly 200 photos of the entire proposal. I stitched them together on an app so it looks like a slightly speedier, and silent, version of what actually happened. I don’t know that I can post it here on blog spot, but I’ll post it to the PerfectlyPink&ParticularlySassy facebook page if anyone is interested to see my bright red face and shaking stature.

I’m beyond overjoyed with the engagement ring, it is everything I ever wanted, and the best part is my sister made it for me. She recently moved to Florida, got married, and is pregnant with her first child. I’m so grateful she was able to create and put together the ring of my dreams. I seriously fall in love with it more and more each and every time I look at it. It has three princes cut diamonds, white gold band, and on the inside our initials are engraved alongside our favorite quote “Forever and Always.” She also put one of her signature design ideas in there as well, under the diamonds on the inner rim is my future last name “Paul.” This ring glimmers so beautifully, I couldn’t be more excited that I am able to hold onto this amazing piece of jewelry for the rest of my life.

Besides the engagement I got to visit a brand new city in a state I’ve never stepped foot into. I absolutely loved the warm weather and gained a new obsession for Whataburger! It was great to spend time with our friend, and share in this new adventure together after traveling thousands of miles by car trying and finding ways to keep entertained for two days.

I got to experience a really awesome new restaurant I never heard of until Matt told me about it. On our second day driving down into Texas we dropped by a one of a kind restaurant called “Lamberts Café.” The specialty of Lamberts is they throw your rolls at you from across the room, and share some seriously delicious southern home cooking. They have three locations; we stop at the Missouri location, Sikeston. The food was AMAZING, and I got to try fried okra for the first time, I’m pretty obsessed with it.

            Once we were in Texas the first few days we went to Galveston to see the beach, and got to see some interesting sites like the infamous Buckees Gas Station. It appears to be an average gas station with a cute beaver… or chipmunk… on the sign, but it is quite the tourist attraction on the inside. It was like a glorified souvenir shop that sold coffee and gasoline. We also took some time to visit surrounding suburbs in Houston to see if anything was appealing for future living. We both agreed Pearland TX is a place we want to possibly reside in after we get married and begin our lives together.

            This trip was one of a kind, and the best way I could have spent my last spring break of my college career. Now I’m going to continue finishing up school and begin the wedding planning.  I’m so excited to begin my life with Matthew, roughly one year from now we will hopefully be married. Fingers crossed I’m not a total bridezilla!!!

Ooopsie!!!! Again...?

Why is Birth Control such a complex idea? Why is it difficult to understand that sexual intercourse leads to making a child? Why do people think they are immune to accidents?

I’m finding it difficult to understand why people think they are exempt from biology. People are taught in school, as early as 6th grade, that sexual intercourse can lead to pregnancy if precautions are not taken. There are commercials for condoms, birth controls, and Plan B options on almost every channel! It absolutely baffles me that people are so shocked when they get pregnant after they only implement the “Pull OUT” method. (Worst method ever).

So that being said there are still those people who use contraceptive incorrectly, or they may be part of that 1% ineffective rate. So if someone has an “Accident” wouldn’t you expect them to learn from that accident? Like begin taking double the precautions as usual? (PS double precaution is not wearing two condoms at once… that will result in tearing quicker than wearing one.) Taking a high dose birth control pill (and taking it regularly) along with using condoms would be better than just one option if you are someone who already has one unplanned child.

I never quite understand how people manage to have multiple “oopsie” kids (especially with multiple partners)…. The worst part is that the people who are having all these kids are those who can’t afford themselves, let alone multiple little mouths to feed. It really baffles me the idea that people are okay to bring children into the world on food stamps and welfare.

I have so much respect for couples who plan having children, or at  least those who are well off enough to not be struggling before realizing they will now tack on 10,0000+ dollars a year for the next 18 years. It may seem a bit ridiculous to expect that children should be brought into the world by two loving parents (regardless of sexual orientation). People these days are so careless about their sex lives, their offspring are left to suffer with struggling parents who cannot afford the clothes on their own backs.

I realize accidents happen, and there are unfortunate situations, but there are options for that… Keeping the child in your care is not always the best option. There are tons of loving gay couples who are dying to bring a child into their families and cannot, due to lack of “resources.” I would much prefer seeing all these accidental pregnancies turn into blessings for families who have the means to take care of the child, rather than the child knowing first world hunger and dirty hand-me-downs.     

I know there will be a lot of single mothers who will disagree with these sentiments, but I have made it clear I intend to say how I feel regardless of who I offend. (Sorry not Sorry). Some single moms can pull through and create a decent life for their children, but there are more who are unable to pull through and turn it around.