Let me guess, you work out??

I see you there with your "do you even lift?" shirt, and posting about it being leg/back/shoulder day. Complaining and saying "I wish I could just lie around and eat pizza but I'm busy getting fit!" Please, we all know you are working out, posting about it every day saying how you're "hitting the gym,""so sore from leg day." It gets highly annoying. Please get off Facebook and get a Twitter where people can easily ignore your posts. 

If you wanna post progress pictures or say how you're glad things are going better in your life, that's cool. If you post every day about it, everyone who doesn't share your interest is over it. Join a gym page on Facebook, or get a Twitter where you can share with people of similar interests. I don't post every time I eat something terrible for me or drink a soda, I don't post things saying "I could be showing in a bikini competition right now but instead I'm enjoying a pizza and beer!" No, I don't do that, because that would get hella fucking obnoxious. 

Please do everyone a favor and share your daily workouts elsewhere. Us fatties would truly appreciate it. 

Thanks bunches. 

PPPS:

I got this über bomb white chocolate covered Oreo while on vacation in North Carolina!!! And I drank a crap ton of beer and alcohol! Don't worry I worked it off hiking mountains and swimming in the lake!!! 

Never Make the Same Mistake Twice!!!

Let's take a moment a recall a bad choice or decision we have made in our lives. It can be anything that we regret: a tattoo, words you said to someone, something you never said that you wish you had, staying in a relationship, giving someone a second chance, or never giving someone a chance. Think about any one of those things, or another mistake, and recall how it made you feel as soon as you realized you had regretted the decision. Did you have feelings of shame, hurt, fear? What negative emotions overcame you from the mistake you made? 

We are faced with decisions every day, and we can choose to make good or bad of it. If you pass up that piece of cake for your diet, good decision. If you take back that loser boyfriend/girlfriend, bad decision. Some of the many things we have as humans is the right do decide, the right to have choice, and the right to happiness.  Don't ever trade your happiness for a choice or decision that will compromise that happiness in the end.

One thing to remember is that we all make mistakes, and most of all we can learn from those mistakes. Never do yourself wrong by making the same mistake twice and not learning from it the first time. As much as we need to care for others we can't forget to look after ourselves.  Our happiness and our health is just as important as those we care about. 

If there is anything you take from your previous mistakes, let it be a lesson. Forgive yourself for you wrong doings, but also remember not to let it happen again. Understand why you were wrong, and do not punish yourself. But keep in mind, making the same mistake twice is only hurting you. 

Do yourself a favor and remember to put yourself first when it comes to making a decision in YOUR life! Always remember how awful it would make you feel to look back on a mistake and say "I wish I would have done that differently." 

You are in control of your happiness. Don't ruin in for a stupid mistake, especially a mistake you should have learned from previously. 

Sticks and Stones

Has anyone ever heard the phrase "sticks and stones may break but bones, but words can never hurt me."?????

BIGGEST CROCK OF SHIT EVVVERRRR!!!

One thing we learn while growing up is to be kind to one another, respectful, and to "treat others like we want to be treated!" I know everyone has heard that from a parent or teacher at least once in their life. One thing schools attempt to crack down on is bullying.  I assume most of my readers have gone to some form of public schooling, and while attending school most may have witnessed, been a victim of, or even committed acts of bullying. 

Bullying happens in many forms: text messages, cyber bullying, verbal harassment, name calling, the list goes on. Any form that it comes in is 100% wrong. Many people that bully pick on those who are weaker, and they do not understand the seriousness of what they are doing. Bully's may choose to be mean in order to get a good laugh, to seem cooler to others, or they may not even think they are being mean. One thing people fail to understand is the toll it can take on someone who may not have a stable mind or self esteem. Many teens commit suicide from being bullied about their appearance, their sexuality, their abilities, or even their social status. Regardless of the reason it's never something that will be taken lightly, especially when it's tearing someone apart. 

Being told you're ugly, fat, stupid, or any other negative word, really affects a person. Victims begin to hear things so much they can start to develop a low self esteem as well as take on those thoughts about themselves. This results in feeling like a failure and becoming very withdrawn from the world. 

When someone picks on a person, for whatever reason, they may be picking on someone that is a ticking time bomb! Someone who will start to take every negative word to heart, and may act on it in the wrong way. Words are serious weapons, they can do so much to a person. 

There are two movies I would recommend to readers, both can be found on Netflix. The first is a documentary called Bully, and the other is a made for TV movie called Cyberbully. Both have great information and outlook on the issue. The documentary focuses on how kids have been bullied, why it's negative, and other real world issues. The movie is a good depiction of what bullying looks and feels like to the person in the victims shoes.

It's super important to choose our words carefully, as well as stick up for those who aren't strong enough to do so themselves. Believe it or not, many people do not take well when someone calls them out for being a jerk, trust me I know! Be a voice, especially when in a school setting.

One last thing to remember, any kind of negativity can be interpreted as hurtful or threatening. Even just a one word comment, an exasperating sigh, ANYTHING. My boyfriend constantly reminds me that "perception is reality!" So if you roll your eyes at a classmate while they give a presentation, say something mean about something that defines them (gay rights, religion, etc), or point out their flaws in a way you might see as helpful or constructive; just remember they may not see it as a friendly gesture or take your rolling of the eyes as an involuntary reflex. These actions can be perceived as threatening and negative. 

During my freshman year in high school there was a kid who was bullied for being different. He was in some special classes, and wasn't very good at socializing in a way most would define as "normal." He was strange to many, and picked on by most. One day he brought a knife to school, he pulled it on the bus after getting made fun of. I wasn't on the bus, but we all heard about it; and I went to a school of over 4,000. I never saw him again, I assume he was detained and evaluated, but it's too bad it had to go to that extent. The things that were said to him drove him over the edge, he may not have hurt anyone with that knife, but he was hurt enough for everyone. 

Think before you speak! 

Words are some of the strongest weapons around, we have to use them wisely. Lives have ended over the exchange of hurtful words; hundreds of gay teens commit suicide from lack of acceptance. As cliché as it sounds, life is precious. Imagine your child, or future child, being the one hurt; it would be painful for you to watch someone you love struggle with the hurt and frustration that comes from bullying. Don't even get me started on how you would feel if you lost that child due to someone's ignorance. 

Be a friend, and a voice! But most of all don't be a bully. You never know what might happen if you say something hurtful to someone who isn't emotionally stable. 

Stopbullying.gov

Bad Parenting.

'Let me start off with a girl I knew from high school. She is currently a mother of two with one on the way, and she's going on 23 years old. Clearly she isn't the smartest considering she's on her third mistake. Don't get me wrong, kids are awesome, but she's still a child herself.  Her first kid is in custody of her parents, and the second has probably never seen a story book in her life. This girl, we will call her Kelsey, cannot hold down a job. She constantly says how she had to quit her job because the people she worked for kept "telling her what to do...." I'm pretty sure that's how a job works.... Clearly I should have called Human resources years ago. She is always on Facebook selling old clothes to make money, and begging people to drive her husband to work saying how they shouldn't be rude and ask for gas money. She always calls people out for judging her parenting skills, and lifestyle. I have a huge theory 'No one would judge you if you didn't share this information about your life.'

No lie she posted this same thing around Christmas. So she continues to get evicted. Real good parent. Maybe if Facebook wasn't her full time job she would get further in her life. She posts several things a day, clearly spending a majority of her time on the internet when she could be working a job. During tax seasons she posted multiple photos of things she wasted her money on with her refund. If you ask me she should have saved it for her bills rather than blowing it like she just won the lottery. 

People who show they are bad parents via Facebook deserve the ridicule. I have two photos that people have actually posted showing they aren't the best of moms. 

I don't see the reason behind taking a dirty selfie while your child is bathing.... Especially one where your crotch is clearly visible. Not very classy. 

I would never judge a person for having a drink in the presence of their child, but let's be moderate about it. The female above posted that she was able to finish her margarita faster than the other two people she was with. So that means all people attending drank a fishbowl sized alcoholic beverage, and one of them was required to drive home... Unless they got a cab... Highly unlikely. (I don't generally give people the benefit of the doubt). 

This leads me into an issue ran into at work the other night. My coworker was asked by a table to have his beer poured into a paper cup because "his son gets upset when he drinks." I don't see that as a good way to fix the problem, maybe you should ignore the beer for one meal. Clearly it causes him more problems than just "upsetting his kid." He drank at least two beers while there.... I can't see why that's necessary. In my opinion he should have drank a soda and gotten over it. Clearly if the kids feelings mean enough for you to disguise the drinking, he may as well just avoided it. That kid will have trust issues if he ever finds out.

It's alright if you drink when you have children, but people shouldn't go to these lengths. 

If you're going to reproduce please get your life together. Get a job, and act responsible. Don't lose your child's trust early, and always provide for them before yourself. 

I may be a bad judge since I don't have kids... I have a cat. But I realize I'm not at a place in life for a child. Especially more than one! 

Trish, like fish!

My absolute newest YouTube obsession is Trisha Paytas! This girl is my new idol, she is super bubbly, gorgeous, and so much fun to watch! I have to say one reason I love her is because she is an advocate for curvy girls! She even wrote a book called "Curvy and Loving it." I really want to get my hands on this book in the near future. She has described it as her views on life and how she stays happy. 

I have watched tons of her videos and can say I have yet to be bored. She does tons of great hauls, give-aways, and gives amazing advice to her viewers. I love hearing her style tips, seeing what clothes she buys, and watching her hair and makeup tutorials. One thing I enjoy the most is her videos where she gives her viewers a personal look into her life, talks about her past, her faith, and her experiences. 

I would highly recommend her YouTube channel to all females. 

Check her out! 

Trisha Paytas 

YouTube: blndsindoll4mj