This topic has been sitting at the top of my To-do list for quite some time. I'm currently entering my senior year at Ball State University, and one thing I've learned a lot about, liars. We all learn quite a bit outside the classroom, but I've managed to be privileged to have met all the liars I could ever need. Now, these people aren't just liars when it comes to saying "I like your shoes. Your outfit is cute." I've been witness to lies that completely alter the persons true self.
I understand people sometimes lie to look better, for instance, they may say their GPA is a 3.0 when it's only a 2.9. Whatever. Round up. Not a huge crime. I'm talking about lies that are so beyond unnecessary, they make the person telling them look dumb. If I can't believe a word that comes out of your mouth, you need to figure your life out.
I met a girl my freshman year who literally lied to make herself look beyond awesome. She was a pretty girl, but after I found out what kind of person she is, not only a liar but also MEAN, she is now one of the ugliest people I've ever met. She claimed she was in a world cheer competition, she was a swimmer, and she earned all these great scholarships to other schools. NEWSFLASH, if you actually receive a scholarship to University of Florida you take that shit! I love Ball State, but UF is sooooo prestigious! Plus it's in Florida!!!!!!!
I have also diagnosed her with One-upper disease! This is my own diagnosis, essentially it is the idea that she cannot let anyone out-do her, she has to be the best at everything. Whenever we said something like "we are going to go tanning, wanna go with?" She would say "oh yeah I love tanning, I have a tanning bed at my house!" Mind you I've worked in the tanning industry, and she didn't know a damn thing about her 'tanning bed!' If you're going to own and operate a tanning bed you need to know how it works so you don't burn yourself or over do it.
Another situation occurred when she was talking to my roommate. My roommate owns a horse, and she is extremely well versed in the Equine world! When she mentioned she liked to ride horses this girl said "oh I have a horse too!" Eventually after asking questions and prying at the girl's knowledge my roommate realized the girl knew NOTHING about horses. We eventually contacted this girls old friend and found out that she never owned a horse and only took horseback riding lessons a few times.
This is only a few of the many lies she concocted. She told big lies, little lies, all kinds of lies. (Girl was the Dr. Seuss of lies!!!!!) All these lies had a common theme, as well as they were all centered around one thing, making herself look good. Making it seem like she was better than everyone else, or trying to seem more interesting. If you can't be liked for who you are and have to lie, then you need help. If you do choose to lie don't lie about things you know NOTHING about and can't even fake a conversation on; especially when you're talking to an expert.
People should focus more on actually being an interesting person, they shouldn't have to lie about what they do in order to seem interesting. To me I don't see a reason to lie, my life may be boring, but I'm okay with that. I don't feel like I have to say I'm gymnast who went to worlds, or that I use to model, or pretend I was a pro fisher! I'm basic. I don't lie and pretend to be something I'm not. Only the people who matter will find me interesting; and if they don't find me interesting then they don't matter!
I can hold a conversation and be entertaining without lying about every aspect of my life. It's less shameful to be boring then to pretend your life is exciting. If someone is your friend you shouldn't have to lie to make them like you. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Get it together people!
(I have also met more liars than my previous example. More stories for another time!!!)
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