Unattractive Qualities in a Man

I identify as Heterosexual so I’m doing this based on my ideas of what I think is unattractive about men. Some of, if not all of, these qualities could be used towards women as well. I’m going to list these out, expand on some, and others are pretty self-explanatory!

-       Cheater Here is a note to remember. If you met a guy by him cheating on his girlfriend to be with you… Chances are he will do the same to you!

-       Clingy

-       Controlling Needing to know whom you are with, and what you are doing constantly.

-       Doesn’t have their life together

-       Drinks too much Its one thing to have beer or a drink at dinner, or even several for special occasions, but there is no reason to be getting shit faced every day of the year/ on a Tuesday evening. There are always exceptions for a drink, but a man who needs to be drunk to have fun doesn’t appeal to me.

-       Homophobic I could NEVER be with a guy who didn’t except my best friend… In most cases guys who are homophobic tend to have masculinity issues. Here is a tip to any men who may be reading this, If a gay man thinks you’re attractive then that is a HUGE compliment. That compliment is equivalent to a model finding you attractive. Don’t be mad; OWN IT!!!

-       Immature

-       Jealous this one is something I couldn’t imagine ever dealing with again. Lucky for me I have a man in my life that doesn’t EVER get jealous, and the same goes for how I feel. We just don’t have those qualities. If your ex or your guy friends threaten your man then it sounds like he is insecure about his own abilities as a man.

-       Liar This one is a given, no one likes a liar. I dated a guy who felt the need to lie about EVERYTHING. I began to wonder if he even knew who he was. He just felt the need to look Bad Ass and would say all sorts of dumb things that were beyond UNTRUE. Part of me wants to warn his new girlfriend, but I couldn’t care less about either of them to waste my time.

-       Limited interest in music If you only listen to Rap and Hip Hop there is a good chance you are also just uneducated. I like a good Eminem song, and Hip Hop is fantastic at the club/jamming out to in the car. But if you turn up your nose at some country or alternative then I don’t see you as very attractive.

-       Mean Drunk (Building on drinks too much) I don’t find it remotely okay when men feel the need to assert masculinity and become raging DBags when they drink too much. I’ve seen guys who always feel the need to start fights once they have alcohol flowing through their blood!

-       Parents still pay for EVERYTHING

-       Players

-       Racist

-       Sexist

-       Shady (Not Trustworthy) If they have a passcode on their phone that you are not allowed to access then there is a huge RED flag. My fiancé locks his phone because he doesn’t want anyone to have access to it if it gets stolen or left at work. He has told me the password and even given me my own fingerprint to use it whenever I want. But to be honest I only use it if I need to take a photo or text someone for him. I legit never feel the urge to read through his texts/ Facebook messages/ or anything of that sort. If either of you have to check up on one another in a sneaky way then there is no reason to be together.

-       Shallow

-       Uneducated I’m not saying a guy has to have a college degree, but they better not be a complete idiot. My roommate dated a guy, she now sees the error in her ways, and he was beyond Stupid. She was doing a project on NASA for a speech class in college and he was like “What is N-A-S-A.” He also had a tendency not to know the meaning of simple words and terms. I realize I don’t have a HUGE eloquent vocabulary, but I can hold my own with professionals. 

100th POST!!!!!

Oh my! Where has the time gone???

I’ve been writing this blog and building the Perfectly Pink and Particularly Sassy Empire for over a year, and now 100 posts! I’m very excited to have come this far.

I realize I have not jumped HUGE milestones with my blog and other branches of PPPS, but this is quite incredible. Since I’ve begun this blog quite a bit has happed in my life!

I’m now engaged to the Love of my life!

I Graduated College!

I started a new job as a behavior Therapist working with Autistic kids!

And I’m planning my wedding!

 

I’ve received tons of great feedback from friends and acquaintances during my journey here as a blogger. I couldn’t be more thankful for the support I’ve received and those who have shared their opinions with me!

I really wouldn’t be this far if it wasn’t for my amazing fiancé, Matt! He truly keeps me grounded and reads every post and tells me his views on the topics as well!

I also wouldn’t have gotten this far if it weren’t for all the people who have made my blood boil and inspired me to write the various posts I’ve shared!

Thanks to those who are constant readers and enjoy what I have to say.

I’m very thankful for every view, comment, and opinion I receive!

Thanks Everyone!

 Keep it SASSY!

Cheering on sin?

This post is long overdue, but I finally got the energy to go for it. Mind you this is one of the very many sensitive topics regarding Gay Marriage. 

A few weeks ago I was scanning through my Facebook and saw a post by a family member of mine that made my blood absolutely BOIL. I responded hesitantly, but I grabbed my bible, shared a verse and hoped to leave it there. Unfortunately my comment caused a huge uproar. Below I have taken screen shots, and edited them to protect those involved.  Feel free to skim, or skip it all together. I’m not really responding to anything in particular, but if you want to know the basis this will give an idea of what got me upset. 

After reading the first few that came through I turned off the notification and tried to guard my heart. I felt slightly attacked because I said my peace, but when people put things on Facebook they are putting themselves out there. I’m not mad at the fact that people disagree with me, I was mostly hurt by those who felt this was the worse sin ever committed and those who agree should be shunned by God.

I began to feel targeted as though I was a bad Christian for agreeing that all couples should be able to marry, be together, etc. In my mind I praise the same God everyone else posting does, the difference is that I believe he loves all, and accepts them regardless of their sexual preferences.

These folks I came into contact with limit Gods acceptance and put him on a low level saying that he would never be okay with the happiness felt by his children. People can quote whatever verse fits the moment to say otherwise, but in the end Love should always prevail.

Hate towards others choices and lifestyle doesn’t make you a better person. I don’t feel God wants his children to judge one another, or punish them for not fitting standards our churches set for society.  People are so caught up in their own thoughts that they forget we all have struggles, and being accepted shouldn’t be a fear for anyone. Pushing so much hate and allowing yourself to claim these negative stances is only showing the colors of you as a person, and as a “Christian.” I feel that these types of folks give Christians a bad name.

After hearing all this negativity I mentally broke down, I couldn’t function that day. I felt targeted as if I was the one who was being judged for who I love. I was never mad at people judging me for my opinion; I was frustrated for those who weren’t even involved in the argument. I have always been very liberal as far as supporting equality and all things LGBTQ, and I couldn’t even put in words the feelings I felt that day.

I hope as time goes on people will understand equality, and quite judging others for who they love. I know that’s a long time coming, and society is moving in the right direction, but it always gets difficult before it gets better.

Love and Freedom!

LETS BEAT A DEAD HORSE, EH?

My two cent is rather short, but none the less I feel the need to share because I care about Love as well as Liberty!

First of all lets raise our glasses to LOVE! I couldn’t be happier about the marriage equality established in our country. I almost began to tear up from seeing all the corporations who put their logo in the rainbow colors to show their support. Although I’m straight I am huge supporter of the LGBTQ community, and to know they can be recognized in legal unions is beyond heart warming. I would be deviated if I couldn’t marry my Fiancé, and I never understood why love couldn’t be recognized when associated in same gender.  God loves everyone equally, and I truly believe he wants happiness for his children regardless of their gender preference.

These 35 Companies Just Told America Exactly What They Think About the SCOTUS Gay Marriage Ruling

Now to some annoying news: Burning of the American flag… When I was in middle school and high school I began to notice students who sat down during the pledge of allegiance.  When confronted they said, “I don’t like this Country.” This INFURIATED me! (I was in middle/high school in the mid 2000’s, during the time when folks were still irate about the war.) My response was, and still is, If you don’t like this country the GTFO! Leave… You can take your sorry butt to a third world country where your iPhone and Facebook are useless.

           

I don’t expect people to wear red white and blue every day or put “God bless America” on their bumper, but if you seriously don’t like the country that is giving your butt clean drinking water and decent food please go crawl into the catacombs in France and stay there. Burning a flag that stands for your freedom is absolutely ridiculous. That flag stands for more than anything you could EVER accomplish in your petty life.  This goes for those bigots at Westboro church too! They prance around holding signs that say, “God hates America” and such; they can take their annoying butts to the middle of Australia and let the kangaroos eat their soulless bodies and peanut sized brains!

-END RANT-

With all that being said I cannot wait to live in a world where everyone is treated equally regardless of race, gender, or sexuality!  

 Keep it Sassy! 

One BIG Server Problem!

So I realize I rant quite a bit about my job as a server, but to be honest there is quite a bit that irritates most servers and things that patrons need to be educated on. 

I understand not all servers are good hearted, or have positive feelings towards your experience at their restaurant. I want to begin by saying I genuinely care about my table’s experience and I typically go out of my way to ensure your happiness, as well as my tip.

Lets begin.

-The company does not pay me; the only money I make is with the tips I receive. The wage of 2.13 I get per hour is to cover taxes on the tips. In the three years at my current job I have NEVER seen a pay check. Even when I get paid to go to a meeting it only goes toward my taxes at the end of the year. That being said, I typically owe several HUNDRED dollars during tax season.

-Please know that most servers do not intentionally ignore you. If we take a minute to get to the table it’s because we are taking care of the other guests in the store. People tend to have some mindset that they are our only table and if we are not there the second they need us we must be on our phones or screwing around. There are other people who need refills, we have to deliver food, and it takes more time than anyone realizes to pour eight drinks!

Double Seating: When two tables get sat in one servers section at the same time. (There is also such thing as triple seating, quadruple seating, etc.)

This issue creates several problems.

            -We have to greet and give our whole scrip of drinks and such several times, grab double the drinks, and make time to ring it all in. When tables order food it takes time to get all the modifications and such figured out between them and their server. Example: how do you want your steak/burger cooked, what side do you want? Some people have allergies, I have to type all that in to assure no cross contamination. Then people typically want 6 sauces to dip their fries in, or have ten different things they do and don’t want on their burger/salad/sandwich/etc. This takes time…

            -The concept of double seating can be done even when two tables are not sat at the same time. People who take too long to decide what they want to eat and have me come back 5 times before they choose makes it so I might get sat before they figure it out, this makes me feel double seated because I have two tables who are ready to order at the same time.

            --When you have a large group who straggles in and only one person arrives for the first 10 minutes, then I get another large table while the rest of your party decides to come in it is like getting sat twice. Now I have to maneuver double the drink orders and attempt to make sure everyone’s food gets sent back in a timely manor.  

Waiting to be seated:

-       I know it’s never fun to be put on a 20 minute wait to then be sat and have to wait on food to be delivered. That’s the price paid for going out to eat during dinner time.

-       If you enter a restaurant and are asked to wait but see open tables do not complain. Being put on a wait is for the good of everyone. It allows servers to give you the attention you deserve when there is time for it. People who get sat during a busy rush and have to wait on their server who has two other tables get angry too.

o   Keep in mind: we can only put down so many fryers for your food, and only so many burgers/steaks/chicken breasts fit on the grill at a time. The kitchen is limited on how much they can handle at once. Your food is more likely to get cold or made incorrectly when there are fifty other orders being made simultaneously. 

A table of five came in a few days ago and became upset when they were sat and it took more than a second to get a server to their table. After two servers couldn’t possibly get to take care of them I stepped up and took their orders and proceeded to kiss their butts for a tip at the end. The table was annoyed their food took so long to be cooked, but like I mentioned we can only cook so many things at a time. We make the food as it is rang in, there is a chance there is a table of 10 whose food is before yours. The women was beyond annoyed and by the end they basically got half their bill taken care of because of their rewards card and their inability to manage its points system. After both my manager and I basically took it up our butts to please them they did leave me eight dollars on what was originally a 75-dollar bill. This lady even had the nerve to complain it was too cold where they were seated. I politely said “I’m sorry about that, we hardly notice it because we are running around.” Here is an important note: your food will take a whole lot longer if your server passes out from being over heated and needs medical attention…. BRING A SWEATER!

“We are in a hurry”:

            This is the most irritating phrase that can leave your mouth when you enter a SIT DOWN restaurant. I will not be telling the kitchen to move along with your order, nor will I give poor service to my other tables because you need to get to your movie in 30 minutes.

            There are few ways to manage this situation for those who are in this “HURRY.”

1.     McDonalds is down the street.

2.     Manage your time better.

3.     We have to cook the food, unless you want it cold don’t expect us to be quick about it.

4.     If you are in a hurry don’t take forever to decide what you want to eat, the longer you take the more orders are going in before yours.

5.     Cooking a burger or steak well done is not a quick process, order it medium or order a salad.

I realize we live in a fast paced world, but we won’t compromise the quality of our food because you need to take your kid to baseball practice.

I’m NOT a mind reader:

I actually had a woman complain by writing her concern on the check that she paid with. She said her food was cold and it took too long to come out. Although we were not full as a restaurant it was lunch and we only had on three servers and a bartender. I can only be in one place at a time. If you have a problem with your food tell me!!! Otherwise you have to deal with it. You can’t be mad if you don’t speak up. I would have gladly remade it for her and had my manager take care of it. Mind you I stopped by SEVERAL times asking how everything was and if they needed anything, its not like I was sitting in the kitchen scratching my ass.

Wrapping up:

            -If you want a soda and a water you BETTER drink the water too… that’s heavy to carry 10 drinks to a table of five.

            -If you are in a HURRY take your butt to a FAST food place and come back when you can spare the time.

            -Realize your server has other tables and you are not the center of the universe.

            -Eat over your plate, don’t be barbaric and leave trails of crumbs and ranch on the table.

            -If there is no food at your table don’t ask for silverware… You aren’t cutting your ice; give me a minute to get it to you!

            -Bringing in a flavor packet for your water is rude and frankly, we are judging you!

            -If you are cheap you better not tip like it

            -If you tip poorly, or not at all, we will remember you and you will NOT get good service the next time.

            -When you sit down figure out what you want to eat, don't leave the menu closed and have a long conversation. You can talk while you wait on your food. If I have to come back more than twice for you to decide I will give you TONS of time to figure it out!!!!!

            -We are people too. Our job title is Server NOT Servant.

            -If you have children or teenagers you allow to come in on their own explain to them what a tip is. We don’t take kindly to six kids all with water splitting sides of fries and paying in quarters.

            -Don’t come in with a bad attitude. I’m not able to do anything about the day at work you had, or the jerk that cut you off. Being rude to me will not fix a single thing about your earlier endeavors. Order a beer and pipe down.
          - Compliments don't pay my bills. If you think I'm great express that in a tip NOT by saying so with 10% on the side.

PPPS: Feel free to comment with your experiences of serving below.

AND ALWAYS TIP YOUR SERVERS!

Keep it Sassy