Something I have noticed is the Millennial Generation’s need
to be in a constant rush. We often rush
into things just to fulfill a milestone, we often don’t take time to evaluate
our options or even take a hard look at what we are about to do. Sometimes we
rush into good things: like college, or jobs. Other times we rush into things
that could be reevaluated, or jus taken slower: relationships, marriage, and
children. We sometimes take the first opportunity given, even if it isn’t the one
we need long term.
I myself, not to brag, took my time in my relationship and
spent three years getting to know my significant other before we got engaged,
and we took another whole year to get married. As far as I am concerned this
was a great amount of time to get to know one another and learn what is
necessary before jumping into the commitment of marriage. Some wait longer and
that’s just fine, but there are some who rush into this milestone of life and
it quickly becomes something that “was,” it doesn’t continue on as their
“forever.”
Facebook has this funny ability to share people’s life
choices, and I have been privilege to many versions of this reality for others
and their relationships. It is one thing to get engaged and realize that it was
a poor choice, then back out before marriage becomes the outcome. Sometimes
that engagement is the “rush” of reality to show a couple that maybe things
aren’t what they are supposed to be for their relationship.
I have seen too many people on my timeline getting married
and within a year/year and a half that is no longer the status. Most people
I’ve seen do not overly broadcast their divorce, but it is quite evident when
they once had wedding photos then later you see those pictures deleted and new
significant others pictured on their timelines. I have seen this with four
different “friends” on my Facebook.
I absolutely do NOT know the seriousness of their
situations. There could have been abuse, or infidelity that occurred behind the
computer screen. Regardless, all of the instances I’ve witnessed seemed as
though the wedding happened just as quickly as the divorce. We all saw the
45-day marriage of Kim Kardasian and how that stumped our countries’ accepted
media. The popular 45-day marriage is a great example of those I’ve described,
it was a quick marriage that ended just as quickly as it began.
I have a hard time trying to understand how you could possibly
rush into something so serious as marriage. To take the time to plan a wedding,
vow your love in front of your loved ones, and then decide that was a mistake a
few months later..? I’m not judging these people who have been in this
situation, but I find it interesting that this mistake is so common around me. The only common idea is that people are rushing
into life; they feel this is what must happen for them to be accepted, or seen
as a successful adult.
Regardless of the situations, or reasons, it’s unfortunate
that we feel the need to race the clock on life's journeys and end up wasting special
moments, like weddings, on something that wasn’t fit for our forever. I just
hope that anyone reading this knows they shouldn’t be in a hurry to complete
life, it’s not a race.
