This may sound a bit pretentious, but I strongly believe people don't quite understand how good they have it. Even I know that the misfortunes I have been through haven't been the worst thing anyone has ever endured. But the difference between me and other people is that I understand I'm not going through the worst. My life is easy compared to most people's.
I've never struggled with parents who neglected me, I was never bullied for my sexuality, I've never had to live in a shelter. I know how lucky I am. My past was not perfect, but what bothers me most about my past are things I had no control over. I've never done drugs, I've never been to rehab for choices I could have avoided, and I've never been 16 and pregnant.
Struggles I've endured include my parents divorce, my mother becoming disabled, and my stepfather walking out on my mother and I. I've had my life shaken to its core, and it weighs on me, some things get to me more often than I would like, but I didn't ask for any of those things to happen.
What I have a hard time trying to understand are people who complain that their life is hard when they put themselves in their situations and ask for it. If you choose to have unprotected sex you're at risk of pregnancy and putting yourself, and your child, at risk for a difficult life if you are not a stable adult. I see girls who have several kids they cannot afford and expect slack from those around them. These are the consequences, and people seem to think they are exempt from struggle because they don't deserve it. They may not ask for it, they may not deserve it, but they sure has hell could have avoided it.
People who do drugs and spend ALL of their money on God knows what, shouldn't be mad when they are getting evicted from their place of living. You chose to spend your money in a irresponsible way. No one has to give you hand outs.
If you drop out of High School and have difficultly finding a job, that is your fault. I honestly can say that "High School is NOT HARD!" Yeah we can be handed struggles along the way, but sometimes we have to push through them.
If you're too lazy to do your class work and have to retake a class, or a year of school, that is YOUR FAULT! No one held you down and said "don't do your homework, don't study!" You decided it wasn't important enough to put your time into.
People like to complain they don't deserve what they have been handed in life, but in my opinion there are plenty who ask for their misfortunes.
I was watching season 5 of RuPaul's Drag race and two contestants, both in the top three, managed to change situations they did not ask for. Roxxxy Andrews and Jinkxs Monsoon both had difficult mothers who changed their childhood. Yet both queens were able to put their energy into something positive that they loved and they came out on top.
Same show season 4, Phi Phi O'hara and Sharon Needles. Phi Phi grew up not being accepted by her father, but she pushed on and worked hard. Sharon was bullied relentlessly in school for her sexuality and being different, and she went on to win it all that season.
People can change their misfortunes, but it is important to note that these last four examples didn't ask for what they got, yet they rose above it.
If someone who was dealt these awful cards could rise above, what does that say for people who put themselves in a hole?
I understand my life will go on, I try not to get hung up on things I cannot change, they won't affect my future directly, and I can do better. But the best part of my predicament is knowing that it wasn't my fault! Knowing that I couldn't fix it sucks, but I wasn't the reason it brought me down either.
How can those who put themselves in these situations blame others for where they ended up? You control you, and you need to make the changes necessary to fix your mistakes. Don't rely on others to pick you up.
On another note I don't see how someone whose parents pay for everything, and allow them to do what they want can complain over little things that happen to them. Some individuals know how to turn a mole hill into a mountain.
An example of this was a girl I knew my freshman year who complained about her parents being difficult and not understanding her. This girl also had more pairs of UGG boots than most have shoes in general. Her parents gave her money whenever she needed it, and she probably doesn't even pay for the gas in her car, let alone her school tuition. Yet she made her parents out to be terrible people. Her biggest worry should be her personality, not her parents.
It almost seems as though the more you have in life the smaller your problems actually are.
Regardless of your problems it is important to remember there is always someone going through something 100 times worse.
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