Man hating....

...In other terms, my Psychology of Women class at Ball State University. I don't think all the females in my class are extreme feminists, but the second they sit down in my classroom on MWF you would think they are!

It's interesting that being pro female is actually synonymous with "Man Hating" when it comes to this class. I highly doubt all psych of women classes are like mine. I would rather learn about women's history than bitch about how Yoga Pants are produced to please men. Heads up! If you think wearing yoga pants is bad and plays to men's wants and needs... then DONT DO IT!!! Complaining doesn't change anything.  For a class that is about learning the struggles of women and how they have been discriminated against we tend to do an awful lot of discriminating towards men. 

I am all about equal rights for men and women! As a woman myself, I am aware that we have been oppressed in the past. I also recognize that we have to stand up for ourselves and quit blaming men for EVERYTHING! Yeah media is pretty vulgar the way they treat women and affect our ideas of body image, but we must also realize women are just as much to blame for those thin ideals. We can complain all we want about how women are perceived in media, but we have the power to let it affect our thoughts or come to terms with the idea that it's just another thing in life we must ignore. 

Another thing we tend to forget, although men make up a majority of higher positions in the work place, women still work in these companies. Women do have some say in the photoshopping that happens before the magazines reach newsstands. If women really wanted this discrimination to stop they could make it happen, but we also realize as leaders in companies what will sell our products. (Sex... Sex sells... Just incase you were confused.)

We need to quit playing the blame game and if we don't like something quit conforming to it. I like yoga pants, therefore I wear them; if you think they are for men and that they are degrading then DONT WEAR THEM! It's really easy to fix these "issues," as Bull Shit as they are, but it tends to be easier to blame others.

When women choose to blame men and decide they can't make decisions for themselves it just plays to the idea that we are submissive and we cannot do for ourselves. 

I love being a female, I think we have more power than we give ourselves credit for! Yeah men have a little fault in how women have been treated... But I think it should be more about blaming humans versus taking out our oppression on the opposite sex. Just a thought. 

PPPS: There have been big strides towards equality for men and women, Emma Watson made a good explanation of that not to long ago. Being pro female does not have to be synonymous with "Man Hatting". It is possible to recognize our struggles while also realizing society is to blame... Not men alone. 

Paranormal Activity

As Halloween approaches I feel like it is a good time to talk about some things I enjoy. I love watching scary movies, reading ghost stories on stumble upon, and even visiting man made haunted houses. Now as far as I am concerned I have never had a paranormal experience.  I do not BEG to have one either... Although I enjoy doing all these things I'm terrified as I do them. I enjoy the time up until I watch the scary movie, or walk through a haunted house, after I leave I'm glad i did it.... WHILE I am doing it however, I HATE MYSELF FOR DOING IT!!! I become scared out of my boots!!! I do not know why I put myself in these situations... I am even scared of dark at age 22. 

I've been to some scary places, watched horrifying movies, and read some crazy accounts people have had. Here is the catch... If I am going to a haunted house, I will NOT go alone. I also tend to point things out the whole time trying to prepare myself for what will come out at me. I do not watch or go to a scary movie alone. I will read ghost stories and watch shows like ghost adventures by myself, but I will only do it during day light hours (middle of the day). If it is past six-thirty that is like my cut off! I will not watch anything else after that. 

Central State Indianapolis, IN

I do not go hunting spirits on my own, and I do not taunt the dead. I will not play with a OUJIA board, get a ghost app on my iPad, or sit in a cemetery waiting for stuff to happen. The closest thing I have ever done that was close to a real haunted place was visiting Central State which was an old abandoned Hospital in Indianapolis Indiana. I visited there several times, day and night... BECAUSE I WAS STUPID. I was like 18 and 19 the few times I went. We didn't have any experiences that I can recall, but I was still scared. I'm not sure how much activity that area had in general, but I'm glad I didn't witness anything.

 I know I am not the only one who enjoys being scared then gets angry when I have horrifying nightmares. Halloween is an interesting time of year, and one that can be tons of fun. I still do the whole scary movies and ghost stories type stuff year round, but the ideas of Halloween and the month of October really show how much there is out there to scare the living day light out of you! If I ever get the opportunity to work in a haunted house I would jump at the chance, that would be so much fun. Even though I bet working a haunted house would be fun, and I would enjoy scaring other people, I would still probably get scared myself! 

Youtube Vid: Everything OCTOBER

Amanda Please!

Seriously though.... Please get back to normal! 

Not to long ago Amanda Bynes was headlining every tabloid known to man.  For those who don't recall, she went through a major mental break down. After many years of fame this talented actress went through a time of experimentation with drugs as she exploded our news feeds with acts of CRAZY! After she announced retirement things began to go downhill, and fast! She got a DUI, she was accused of arson, and she posted various suggestive photos via her Twitter account. 

It was very hard to believe the antics she was up to... I posted on Twitter during that time saying how I was praying she was conducting her own form of a psychological experiment and she would eventually come out and say "Haha just kidding!" Unfortunately these acts were too real. She ruined her career and had people saying her name for the WRONG reasons. 

Something that struck me during this time were her tweets bashing other celebrities as well as sexual passes at Drake. She posted things like "drake is so sexy" then several minutes later "drake is ugly". She was very bipolar if you ask me. 

(Screen shot I took over a year ago.
These are from her Twitter.
 Not a parody account) 

Since then Amanda has deleted all her tweets to start fresh, then she took a hiatus to gather her sanity. She took some time and got her life together. Unfortunately I feel like she is returning to some of her old ways. I follow her on Twitter and read some unfortunate tweets of her lashing out towards tabloids and famous magazines. Although those rags will post things that are far from the truth, or twists of the truth, her response to them shows she has yet to regain control over her better judgement. 

(Unfortunately we all know that even though she cleaned up her Twitter there is no way it has been forgotten. There are tons of websites where you can find the old tweets from this fallen star!) 

It is really a shame that this talented woman could crack in this unfortunate way. I can only imagine that the pressure she has been under her entire life in the lime light has created the monster we are seeing today. The scariest part to me is that she had the best of reputations until she fell into this slump a year or so ago...

I can't really remember magazines going after her before she put herself out there negatively, or before she decided to show up to court with an insanely ratty wig and dimple piercings. In the end she has brought this upon herself! Like many other stars she wanted attention, in a bad way. In my non-expert opinion I would have to say there is definitely something psychological that has taken over Miss Bynes. Because she is a celebrity there in no good way to honestly escape the stress, and mental illness is nothing for her to be ashamed of. I personally hope she can get some psychological help for her own sake. 

It's already extremely hard to work through mental illness. I can't imagine it is any easier when you're being burned under the magnifying glass of Hollywood. She may not be better tomorrow, but I hope she will be able to collect herself and work out whatever it is she is going through. 

Some of my PERSONAL FAVORITES from Amanda's career. 

-The Amanda Show

-Big Fat Liar

-What a girl wants 

-She's the man  

Well this was funny!

So I have recently noticed people like to start drama via Facebook... I'm not sure why! Either they feel threatened by what I have to say, or me in general, or they just like to start drama. Like I have mentioned before I have NO problem with people who do not agree with me or oppose my views. What I find frustrating is people who feel they need to come at me with rage and talk to me like I am stupid for my opinion. I only welcome those who disagree with me if they can formulate a comment without being rude or sounding like they are a middle schoolers bickering over whose myspace song is better. 

So normally I deal with this issue one of several ways. The first time someone does this to me, if I do not know them well, I will just delete the comment so I do not feel the need to reply to them and cause a war zone on my status. If they continue to leave snarky comments I will just delete them as a Facebook friend. I don't need people like that in my life... Clearly not worth my time. It's not that I can't take criticism, I just prefer to have people form their opinions with less ignorance. 

So here is the instance that has occurred to get me annoyed and motivated to write this blog. 

(This is what I posted the other day on Facebook)

I already received a comment that was belligerent a day ago, but this one cracked me up for several reasons. First, I have had encounters with this female several times, she is very two faced from my previous experiences. Second she took several times to post what she felt the need to say. I was able to open the Edited button and realize that it took her several minutes to compose a post that made sense and completed what she felt the need to share....

Regardless, here was what she posted in response, and all her attempts doing so...

I cannot stress enough how many other ways she could have composed this to not come off like a.... well.... a Dumb bitch... But apparently she felt the need to post her feelings angrily. I'm still not sure what I did to her. 

Let me clarify a few things. I am a server and clearly I know what I am doing because my managers let me do what I please when it comes to working whenever I come home. One thing you need to know as a GOOD server is that we should always assume people want their change if they leave cash. I never ask "Do you need change?" that would be silly. What if they leave me a fifty dollar bill on a 25 dollar check and I only know there is cash in the book? Clearly they will not be leaving me that nice of a tip... At least not always... It does happen occasionally. Plus they would think I am an idiot for thinking they are leaving me a 100% tip. Regardless, I always say "I will be right back with this!" They can then tell me if they do not need change! I never assume I am getting a tip, it is an egotistical assumption. Yes I get the tips, but I never assume that! I find it rude to ask the question "Do you need change" I just bring them change! You can also view my annoyed response to the ignorant comment above.. I don't see why I should have to tell someone who is bringing me change that they need to bring five one dollar bills for a five dollar bill. I would be talking down to them by saying "Can you bring me singles for the five I left.." That would be, in my opinion, insulting their intelligence! 

Commenting on the note I have given to cashiers any time this has happened I have not been in a busy place... people just haven't had the intelligence to call me out. Yes I made a mistake because I misheard someone, but when I worked in the mall I would always mention this mistake to people and they would be grateful that I didn't just add weight to their change purse. I do not feel it is their JOB to correct me... But I would at least hope they are capable of noticing this, and as a decent person they would call me out on my mistake! If they could manage all that they could keep me from having to be annoyed that I just received more change than I wanted...

Long story short, I will be deleting this girl from Facebook because I don't actually have a reason to be "friends" with her on this social media site. I also have a feeling she may have been that cashier before, and now she is taking it out on me that she was yelled at previously for not noticing a similar situation. Honestly, I don't care why she felt this was her place, but I know she isn't an important enough person for me to let her read my thoughts on Facebook from here on out. 

PPPS: When I was training at my server job I was sitting at a table with my trainer and a lady who was leaving told us in training "Don't give customers a five dollar bill for change on 15 dollars. (The ladies bill was 15$ gave the girl a 20 and got back a Five dollar bill..... Sound familiar... then she was mad she got a five!) I'm not the only person who finds making change an issue for some people.. But oh well! Life goes on and I still tipped my waitress the night she did not give me correct change because I'm not a jerk, and I am a server, so YES...I do know better! 

Jersey Girl at Heart

(Atlantic City)

I was born and bred in good ole Indiana... but I am a Jersey Girl at heart. My Dad and his side of the family resides and are from the Garden State. My Dad lives 15 minutes from NYC by train, so I get to visit that AMAZING city all the time... and now I'm over 21 and will be able to visit some great Bars and Clubs in the city! 

The reason all this comes up is because my boyfriend and I are leaving next week to visit family for my birthday. I am beyond excited to see my cousins, aunt, uncle, grandfather, and my DAD!!! 

I love going to Jersey to eat all the AMAZING foods, do some tax free shopping, and spending time with my crazy Polish family! (Side note: Jersey Pizza is a real thing, if you haven't tried it you are MISSING out. The chain stores here in Indy are not the same at all...) It is like a different world compared to what many of us are used to, and I LOVE IT! People there can be rude, terrible drivers, and extremely LOUD... But to lets be honest, we are like that at some points... 

Let me mention that I'm not sure that I could live in New Jersey full time, or raise a Family... but I love everything about being there. I've been going to the "Jersey Shore," also known to locals as Seaside Heights, since I was an infant! I've always loved the beaches there, getting my printed shirt (before it was cool), and playing games on the boardwalk. Every year our entire family would rent a house and spend the week in this amazing area.

Now NJ it is not a midwest area... duh, it isn't in the midwest... but it is not corn fields and farmland. It is a large area with a high population of people who Immigrated many years ago! It is a VERY diverse area, all colors, cultures, and languages. There are more diners than I could count, and it is much better than a majority of chain restaurants around here. Most of all it is a good town, they have amazing stores, cities, people, food, and entertainment! 

I really want to take a moment and break some stereotypes about New Jersey. The whole state is not like the show "Jersey Shore," but I will say people are a lot like those who were cast, just less drunk... On the real when you visit Seaside it resembles the show quite closely, it is a party town in the summers, it is also hella fun! I'm sure now it has gone down a bit for people like me because now there a bunch of tourists who want to meet Snookie and Pauly D... but it is a great place to vacation! The nightlife is what gets CRAZY! 

 If you ever visit there a few foods you HAVE to try!

-Jersey Style Pizza (grease will drip down your arm)

-Taylor Ham (Taylor Ham, egg, and Cheese on an everything bagel... to be precise... with a Snapple) 

-DISCO FRIES (Fries with brown gravy and mozzarella cheese) 

-And a "Jersey Sub" Sandwich (NOT SUBWAY) 

In the long run Jersey will always be my second home. If you have any negative feelings about Jersey then you probably have never been there! Everyone should visit at least once, and MAKE SURE TO EAT ALL THOSE FOODS too! 

Gender Reveal

First off I am not Pregnant! Second off, "Gender" is not the correct term when referring to what baby you are having. Gender is the way we feel inside, sex is what lies between our legs. The words are NOT interchangeable. But these days having a "gender" reveal is all the rage, and something I want to do when I have a child. 

So why does this come up? My life has been changed.... I was lied to my whole life.

My Mom secretly knew, but my Dad was not aware what my sex was until I was born. I was always under the impression they KNEW my sex. 

Tons of parents do this whole, "Lets be surprised" deal.... It isn't uncommon. BUT I WENT ALMOST 22 YEARS thinking both my parents knew what I was gonna be before I arrived. I'm just uber flabbergasted that my baby shower was Gender Neutral themed and people probably bought me yellow and green items... Probably why my first baby blanket was green..... I never knew any of this. I cannot imagine going without knowing the sex of my child... Yeah my mom knew, but my dad didn't..... I just have no idea how he could go without knowing. This is just mind blowing to me. I know its common, but as my 22nd birthday approaches I feel like this is information I should have known by now. 

I texted my dad and this was his response... (ignore his texting skills... and he says no i dear on purpose... he isn't completely ignorant.)