This past semester I've been taking a course for my psychology major, it's a research methods course. The point of the course is to learn how to conduct and write research. Like most forms of research we are in groups; these groups were put together by our professor. I loath group projects, I almost always have a group with slackers, and I end up doing a majority of the work in order to maintain a good grade. The only good part of a group project is ripping those shitty group members to shreds in the evaluations.
Let me give you insight to what I'm dealing with in regards to these group members. One group member is not even a psych major, she's a non traditional student (she's in her early 30s), she has no clue about psychology, and she usually sits there looking confused. My second group member I had not even met until we began our second draft because she NEVER comes to class, and when she shows up she's always strolling in late. The last group member is deceiving. When I met her I liked her, she was extremely nice, and seemed to be a great girl; she is also smart (super helpful not being forced to do everything myself). But as we began working I realized she is a condescending BITCH. She manages to talk down to me every other sentence while we are working on these projects.
My main concern is why do people talk to others as if they are above everyone. I clearly do not think highly of the other group members, but I talk to them as equals and make sure I'm helping them as long as they are trying. Another huge reason I'm very frustrated with this condescending bitch is she talks down to me as she's trying to prove me wrong on a topic I'm right about. (Side note the topics I am right about are structures of our project. And the reason I know I'm right is because I've had to talk to my professor to ask him if she was on the right track so he could explain to her why she was wrong. ) The worst part about her telling me I'm wrong is as she's doing it she speaks in a tone that is basically saying "why would you think this is how to do it, my way is clearly correct..." And let's be real I have now proved her wrong on several occasions.
So let me focus, the cow I'm having right now is over being completely sick of people talking to me as though I am A. Dumb B. Clueless C. beneath them and/or D. Not worth the time of day. Being in the service industry, and having worked retail, I know how to kill these people with kindness, as well as be the bigger person. It's becoming hard to bite my tongue. I'm so tired of being everyone's doormat, letting people get away with treating me poorly because I'm too nice to say otherwise.
I'm curious to know if people who talk down to others regularly even realize their tone? I would love to be the one to call them out, but I don't think they would believe me if I did. People like this are stuck in their own condescending ways, for whatever reason, and I do not have time for this behavior. I have a feeling my group member will hear my wrath if she pushes me far enough, but until then I'm going to continue trying not to punch her in the face! As far as my job goes as a server, I will have to continue taking it from everyone I wait on in order to make my money. Regardless if I wasn't trying to work my way through college, and this was my full time job, people need to quit acting so entitled and not look down on me. Realistically they all need to be careful what they say to the person who is handling their food!!!
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