Who do you think you're talking to?

This past semester I've been taking a course for my psychology major, it's a research methods course. The point of the course is to learn how to conduct and write research. Like most forms of research we are in groups; these groups were put together by our professor. I loath group projects, I almost always have a group with slackers, and I end up doing a majority of the work in order to maintain a good grade. The only good part of a group project is ripping those shitty group members to shreds in the evaluations. 

Let me give you insight to what I'm dealing with in regards to these group members. One group member is not even a psych major, she's a non traditional student (she's in her early 30s), she has no clue about psychology, and she usually sits there looking confused. My second group member I had not even met until we began our second draft because she NEVER comes to class, and when she shows up she's always strolling in late. The last group member is deceiving. When I met her I liked her, she was extremely nice, and seemed to be a great girl; she is also smart (super helpful not being forced to do everything myself). But as we began working I realized she is a condescending BITCH. She manages to talk down to me every other sentence while we are working on these projects. 

My main concern is why do people talk to others as if they are above everyone. I clearly do not think highly of the other group members, but I talk to them as equals and make sure I'm helping them as long as they are trying. Another huge reason I'm very frustrated with this condescending bitch is she talks down to me as she's trying to prove me wrong on a topic I'm right about. (Side note the topics I am right about are structures of our project. And the reason I know I'm right is because I've had to talk to my professor to ask him if she was on the right track so he could explain to her why she was wrong. ) The worst part about her telling me I'm wrong is as she's doing it she speaks in a tone that is basically saying "why would you think this is how to do it, my way is clearly correct..." And let's be real I have now proved her wrong on several occasions. 

So let me focus, the cow I'm having right now is over being completely sick of people talking to me as though I am A. Dumb B. Clueless C. beneath them and/or D. Not worth the time of day. Being in the service industry, and having worked retail, I know how to kill these people with kindness, as well as be the bigger person. It's becoming hard to bite my tongue. I'm so tired of being everyone's doormat, letting people get away with treating me poorly because I'm too nice to say otherwise. 

I'm curious to know if people who talk down to others regularly even realize their tone? I would love to be the one to call them out, but I don't think they would believe me if I did. People like this are stuck in their own condescending ways, for whatever reason, and I do not have time for this behavior. I have a feeling my group member will hear my wrath if she pushes me far enough, but until then I'm going to continue trying not to punch her in the face! As far as my job goes as a server, I will have to continue taking it from everyone I wait on in order to make my money. Regardless if I wasn't trying to work my way through college, and this was my full time job, people need to quit acting so entitled and not look down on me. Realistically they all need to be careful what they say to the person who is handling their food!!! 

Who are you trying to convince?

I'm all for sharing things about a significant other on Facebook. (Sharing the things you do together, photos, and a romantic status on your yearly anniversary.) What I find to be annoying is when a couple constantly posts long statuses about one another, and how much they are meant to be together. 

This thought comes from a personal experience with a friend I have one Facebook. I'll give a quick overview to give some background story. The male of the couple is the one I know personally, he's one of those compulsive liar types. (A real winner) He met his girlfriend sometime last year and began dating her. He then asked her to marry him on Christmas. Real cliché! Yesterday after posting annoying status about one another since they got engaged, less than four moths ago, they got each others names tattooed on them. This is what really blew my mind. 

      

People rush into relationship and marriage often, but tattoos are permanent. After knowing someone for less than a year, and dating the entire time you've known one another, it's a little ridiculous to justify such a permanent thing. I know it's not my relationship, but if you put yourself out there on for everyone to view your poor decisions you best know I will judge you! I personally find great enjoyment in witnessing people's horrendous tattoo choices. On the other hand I can't quite grasp why people feel this is a positive life choice. 

Honestly I don't find any reason to ever tattoo a significant others name onto yourself. No circumstances.... 

The point of my post is to ask the question, "why do people think this is a good idea?" (Tattooing a name of a significant other?) People claim it is to represent their devotion and love for one another. I see it as a death wish to your relationship. A ring represents a relationship the same way, but if the relationship goes south, you won't be reminded of the other person every time you look at their name etched into your skin!  Personally I show my love for my boyfriend by spending time with him and doing things together. We don't feel the need to play "put my name on it so everyone knows it's mine" game. 

This brings me into another section of what thoughts this couple has brought me to! Why do they feel the need to constantly post how great each other is and how much they love one another? It's as if they have to remind, not only all of Facebook, but themselves that they love each other through a Facebook status.. Why don't you just keep your personal relationship personal. My thought is that they feel the need to tell everyone so no one will steal them away, and know they are in a "committed" relationship... Which if you have to do that to claim what is yours, why do you think it's a good idea to get their name put onto your body. If you can't trust them to keep themselves truthful, since you are claiming them, why have the reminder of them on your body when you don't work out as a couple...? 

     (Posted saying "we tell each other it's over.") 

Long story short. I wouldn't tattoo my boyfriend of 2 years name on my body, let alone someone I've been with and only known for less than a year.... Regardless if there is a ring on it. I would only have my significant others name put on me if they passed away, or we were married 50 years... Which in that case I would have no business getting a tattoo at 50 years old. 

The practice of name tattooing is TRASHY!!! 

(sorry for the tacky screen shots, just wanted examples without outing those I'm using in the example!) 

Drag Queens? YES PLEASE!

Drag queens have to be one of my favorite topics! They are the most entertaining performers, in my opinion, and I have a huge obsession with RuPaul's Drag Race on LOGO! This season of Drag Race, season six, is only into the 4th episode and I'm beyond obsessed with the competition this year! I must add that I am über biased... 

Let me explain.

Roughly six years ago I was watching the 7th season of American Idol;  I had my favorite picked out early into the show, before they even got to the final 16! His name was Danny Noriega. He was a super cute little 18 year old, and I was devastated when he was booted off before they got down to the main stage. To be honest I quit watching American idol that season, I was super salty about the fact Danny had been voted off. I still downloaded his performance of Tainted Love onto my awesome iPod video and listened to it every day! 

Fast forward to this year, and the first episode this season of RuPaul's Drag race! I began watching the premier and the first queen to enter the work room is a sassy woman dressed in red leather with beautiful turquoise mermaid hair (Amazingly gorgeous and sassy....In my opinion)!!!! Her drag name is Adore Delano, her real name is Danny Noriega! I about flipped my lid, and had a TOTAL fan-girl moment! I could NOT have been more excited to see her competing in this season! You best bet I'm rooting for her! 

She says she's semi new to the drag world, but I've looked up several of her performances on YouTube and fell in LOVE! She's one of the few who sings live, she is absolutely gorgeous, and her hair styles are TO DIE FOR! My excitement for this season of Drag Race is even bigger than normal! This queen is a joy to watch and makes me laugh whenever she opens her perfectly painted lips. She's even hot when she's sitting in her "taxi cab confessions" video on YouTube as she eats her Taco Bell! 

I sit here asking myself how someone could be so fabulous, talented, and a member of the male species (by birth)! (In his defense drag queens, and gay men in general, are exceptions to the idiocy of the male gender!) Don't get me wrong, not all guys are dumb and worthless, but drag queens and gay men are have a large part of my heart! Adore Delano is my newest obsession, and I get my chance to root for her again six years later, the only difference is the competition she's a part of! 

As a side note within this topic I want to point out something I noticed from the first time I saw Danny on Idol until now. When I first saw him I could tell he was more feminine, and most likely gay. This is great and all, but it found it interesting he hid it while he was on Idol. Luckily my question has been answered!!!! During a recent episode of Drag Race, Adore was talking with another queen who had been on Australian Idol as her drag persona, and made mention that he (Danny) was told to keep quiet about his sexuality. What I gathered is his mom was worried he would be made fun of, but also that the Idol producers told him not to make mention of it for whatever reason.  I found this to be sad that a show would make someone hide who they are to avoid controversy. Granted this was several years ago, and the TV Industry has come a long way in regards to homosexuality. Regardless I'm annoyed that this happened, but I'm extremely elated that Danny/Adore gets another shot to compete on television! 

Elephant Love!

I figure I ought to start out writing a post about myself to give future readers a look into who I am. My favorite animal, and biggest obsession, are elephants! Now I realize elephants have recently become a fad in the fashion world. You can find them printed on many shirts and in the form of jewelry and printed on phone cases. This is lucky for me, but it's not where my love for them began. I found my love for elephants awhile ago but just recently made them more apparent in the décor of my apartment. 

There is an old saying that "an elephant never forgets." I found this something I would say quite often in regards to myself during my senior year of high school. I went through a time of interesting relationships in an attempt to find myself. During this time I felt as though people were crossing me quite a bit. I started to remind them that "an elephant never forgets... and I am very much like an elephant!" This was my warning to those who thought they could get away with what they had done; just a reminder to them that what they were doing would effect our relationship as well as how I view them as a person. 

From an elephants point of view never forgetting goes along with their ability to remember who their family is, and always knowing how to get home. I personally see this to be an extremely positive quality, as well as one I admire about this amazing creature. 

First Post

My goal in starting this blog is to share and expose my thoughts and opinions. Along with exposing my thoughts I want others to comment and give their opinions on topics I post. I hope as I begin this journey I will gain responses from others on their feeling towards what I have to say. I do not plan to stick to any one topic because my thoughts are far from consistent. In addition, I am not a journalist nor do I claim to be any form of professional writer. My main purpose is to share with others and see how others feel towards the issues I am writing on. As well as writing on specific issues I plan to treat this as a place in which I will be able to not only speak freely, but also keep a journal of my personal thoughts.

 (I do not intend to offend anyone in what I have to say, that being said my thoughts are very controversial and I may not be accepted for the things that I believe.)