Dear Best Friend,
We have known each other longer than we have been friends;
times between us haven’t always been stories to tell our children one day.
Regardless of our petty middle school days we became the best friends in high
school. Even though our colleges took us to separate end of the state we still
maintained a friendship I wouldn’t change for the world. As our grownup lives
have evolved we have made a new path that has moved us further away then we
have ever been during our companionship. Even though we are far apart you are
still my best friend and no one will change that, not our husbands, our kids,
or even our mental state.
Today you called me and broke my heart because I heard you
cry but couldn’t wrap my arms around you to make it better. I wasn’t able to be
a physical shoulder to cry on, only a helpful voice at the other end of the
phone. When you called me and I heard your sobs I wanted to sob as well.
Knowing I needed to be a strong friend I did the best I could to hold it
together and remind you of all the things you should never forget.
Incase you are hesitant I want to reiterate some of those
statements and leave it here on my blog for everyone to see, read, and
hopefully learn from.
We all have different paths laid out for us. It’s like going
shopping. Sometimes we see cute clothes made for children. As much as we think
it is super adorable, we know that it doesn’t fit us. The same concept goes for
life goals. One person’s idea of a job, life, and place of living or employment
doesn’t always fit for the next person in line.
Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life, or that
what your doing isn’t want they would do for themselves. There is a reason you
guys do things differently, you are different people. If we all did the same
thing then there would be 7Billion people living in Indiana studying at the
same college, and working toward the same profession…. The world doesn’t work
well when there aren’t people to grow food, fly planes, and build cars. Our
world wouldn’t exist if everyone were living the same life.
No matter what you do, where you live, whom you date I will
always be your friend. No decision you make will change how much I love and
care about you. I will still be here after every mistake you make even if you
just repeat the same one over and over.
Know that you have a purpose, and your purpose is greater
than anyone could ever imagine for you. You didn’t end up in your profession by
accident; it is where you were meant to be. Your path is taking you to new
places and allowing you to grow bigger than anyone else can when they choose to
keep their roots in a comfortable area.
If anyone tells you what you’re doing is wrong then look at
him or her and say that the only thing wrong in this situation is THEM. My mom
always told me “Don’t let someone else make your mood.” If someone is being
nasty don’t allow it to bring you down, always remember you can do anything,
and if you forget that then you can call me and I’ll tell you!
Don’t ever feel behind because you aren’t getting married,
or having kids. There is no expiration date for events like that… don’t push
them to happen or you may miss out on something fantastic. We all live life at
a different pace, and we can’t compare our chapter 4 to someone else’s’ chapter
10.
If something happens that a pint of Ben and Jerry’s and a
bottle of wine can’t fix, call me and I’ll take care of you. If your cat won’t
give you the cuddles you need then face time me and I’ll sit him down for a
chat about what his purpose is. If a boy breaks your heart I’ll be there to
break his bones. I will always be there for you even if you no longer live five
minutes down the street.
Sincerely,
Your Best Friend
